How to reinvent yourself
Do you feel stuck?
Do you want to know how to reinvent yourself?
Then use the best strategy in the world. Oh yes, today you’ll receive only the most effective steps for reinventing your life and personality.
Trust me, the information presented in this article is so valuable that I was even going to publish a book entitled “REINVENT YOURSELF.”
But why publish a book when I can give it as a gift???
Oh yes, I will give it all away for free!
You will love it!
(However, Be Aware That In Order To Comprehend My Ideas, You Will Need To Move A Part Of Your Brain That Has Long Been Ossified In Others.)
Four super effective steps you need to take to reinvent yourself
I’m not 17 anymore. I had many problems. I’ve tried many things, and I know what works. So if you want to reinvent yourself, use the four steps I described below:
1. Analysis. Look at yourself from the side: is it really worth changing?
“Alex, how can I reinvent myself?” a friend once asked. I could see great sadness on his face.
“What do you have in mind?” I asked.
Looking into my brown, self-confident eyes, he replied, “I feel stuck. My life stands still!”
“Well, I don’t see you going around in circles,” I stated.
“Well, Alex, it’s true that my life is SHITTY!” he said to me. So I laid out the truth to him.
I dedicate this truth to you too, dear reader.
Get ready for it.
In a moment…
Remember this: only a person who is dissatisfied with his life can reinvent himself + rise to heights. This means that for change to begin, you would need a reason. And the reason is always there:
a) You’re stuck and feeling bad.
b) The desire to achieve something more.
In other words, you should be glad that your life is complicated (shitty) because only “difficulties” can motivate you to make bigger changes. This is the so-called law of the universe.
I know they don’t teach such things in school, so I’m going to do a mini-lesson.
Lesson no. 1:
The more a man feels stuck, the higher he will jump out of his shackles and the faster he will rise from the ashes, and, of course, reinvent himself!
I know that not everyone understood, so I will give you an example, dear students.
Let’s imagine a 32-year-old loser living in Vilijampole, Kaunas. He’s not doing well. He’s stuck. It’s difficult for him to reinvent himself. To rise to a new level, he should look at himself from the side as critically as possible. The more critically he looks at his life, the more changes he will make. But if he looks at himself and thinks, “I’m already cool,” then he will get stuck at the current stage and won’t change anything. (Which would be veeeeery sad.)
Therefore, dear student, YOU SHOULD APPRECIATE THOUGHTS that you’re stuck and that your life should change and…
“But… my teacher, Alex, sorry, but maybe you are STUPID? Why should I be positive about it if it bothers me that I still haven’t changed?” I will be interrupted by one of the impudent students to whom I will say, “As soon as you stop complaining about problems, as soon as you start to see problems as tools with which you can motivate yourself to change, YOU WILL IMMEDIATELY FIND THAT YOU BECOME POSITIVE! And if you become more positive, you will have a chance to shout out loud: Oh yes, I found happiness in searching for myself, which means I reinvented myself!”
Or maybe I’m wrong?
Look at these two men.
And what do they say:
So which of these men’s mindsets inspires you? Which of them has changed, carried out reforms of thinking?
Now take the brain of a wise and positive person (with experience) and insert it into the body of another (a frustrated person).
It doesn’t matter what your body is like, it’s important whose mindset you have! (This means that if you put Alex Monaco’s brain in a rabbit’s body, the rabbit wouldn’t be afraid of wolves!)
But let’s get back to the essence!
That is, let’s get back to you, the reader, and your personal problems, of which there are soooooo many, as you’ve already noticed.
Oh yes, if you want to make changes, answer yourself one important question.
… answer yourself, “Am I having a hard time? Do I want to achieve my dreams?”
Answer yourself honestly, man!
I’m just asking you to focus on the positives by answering these questions. If you’re not satisfied with your achievements, then you’re my soul brother!
Yes, you heard it right, “IF YOU’RE NOT SATISFIED WITH YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS, THEN YOU’RE MY SOUL BROTHER!!!”
Although I have sold over 25,000 books in Lithuania, I want to sell more, and not only in Lithuania.
I want to sell more than 100,000 books in the USA.
And one kiss is not enough for me; I want a thousand. Meow 😉
And although I’m happy with what I have, and even though I love every moment, and even though I’m very grateful for everything, I Still Want to Experience More! I want challenges/trials! I want a fight! Challenges are my food!
Oh yeah, it could be enough for me, but I want more and hope you’re with me?
If you are with me, let’s go further.
(The point of the first step was to realize that everything is super duper, but you can do it harder.)
2. Choose your path! Understand exactly what you want to change!
“If you don’t know what you want to change, you’re unlikely to change yourself.”
Tell me what you want to achieve in the near future, reader.
Do you want peace?
Perhaps you want more happiness?
Do you want to become as successful as Alex Monaco? Or maybe as the president of the USA?
Do you want to eliminate certain bad habits?
Be honest with yourself!
One thing is to brag about your desires, and the other is to understand why you want them.
I know it’s not easy, so you have to concentrate.
Make yourself a cup of tea or coffee. Grab a pen and write down your goals and your worst personality traits that you want to change.
Shonna Waters would agree with me (she holds a PhD in Industrial-Organizational Psychology and Statistics from the University of Minnesota). I quote, “One of the first steps you can take towards reinventing yourself is self-awareness. This means actively assessing your situation and what you would like to achieve.”
Shonna Waters suggests asking yourself the following questions:
1. Who actually are you now?
2. What are your strongest and weakest points?
These questions will help you understand where the problems lie.
Everyone desires something they don’t have. But pursuing something you don’t have is only worthwhile if you’ve carefully analyzed what you really want and why.
Take some time to reflect on what is lacking in your life. Where/whom do you want to be, and what positive changes can you make?
That’s not all. The psychologist also suggests thinking about your core values.
Yes, it will be a lot simpler to make good changes if you know precisely what you want and why you want it. Create a personal vision statement based on these essential beliefs to guide you in reinventing yourself.
True, there are different ways to understand what you want. For example, Todd Herman (the author of the best-selling book “The Alter Ego Effect: The Power of Secret Identities to Transform Your Life.”) offers to create an alter ego.
The word “alter ego” is Latin, meaning “other I.” Cicero, the Roman philosopher, defined an alter ego as “a second self, a valued companion.” In other words, it’s someone else with whom you may converse.
For example, if you wish to foster compassion and kindness, imagine yourself as a famous American television host Mister Rogers. If you want to become more entrepreneurial, you may look to successful personalities like Oprah or Warren Buffett for inspiration.
Alter egos operate because they let you disassociate from your self-limiting ideas. You may be extremely critical of yourself, but seeing yourself as someone with strong or altruistic ideals, such as Bill Gates, will make it much simpler to integrate your views with theirs.
Ashley Nicolette Frangipane, knowns as Halsey, once said, “I had to become somebody completely different. At the time, I felt that Ashley didn’t deserve to be famous and successful because she wasn’t that special, but if I made Halsey, maybe she could be.”
So think about which muscle would you like to flex the most. Is there a talent or attribute you desire to develop?
Do some fast thinking and answer the following questions to find your alter ego character:
– Do you remember any idols from your childhood?
– Are there any actual or fictitious characters whose attributes you admire?
– Is there somebody you can “make up” to exemplify your ideals if you can’t think of anyone?
Go into further detail after you’ve created your alter ego. Examine your selected individual:
– What exactly do they do?
– With whom do they spend their time?
– What is their everyday schedule like?
– What are their habits?
– What is their daily routine like?
– What are your core values?
– What values would you like to share?
At meditation, imagine yourself as your alter ego, summon your alter ego during moments of stress or hardship, and “consult” your alter ego when faced with tough choices in your life. You may even make a screen saver of them, wear apparel that reminds you of them, or wear a particular shirt to “activate” your alter ego.
You could eventually “become” your alter ego! Use this approach to your advantage if your alter ego is really dominant.
3. Create a visual plan: a vision board!
When you already know what you want, what you want to change, and what to give up, then it remains to create a vision board. On the vision board, mark how you will look when you reinvent yourself. If you don’t, then your intentions will remain intentions.
I write more about it here: vision board motivation.
P.S. While creating life goals, set realistic goals.
You could get carried away with what is actually attainable in the middle of all this thought. Make certain that the changes you wish to make are grounded in reality and represent healthy, achievable objectives.
4. Take action or go fuck*ng sleep.
When you know what you want to change and what habits to give up, all you have to do is find a self-development teacher—a coach who will take responsibility for your changes. It would be better if he were strict and demanding. Let him set a deadline and think about how to change.
And if you choose a weak teacher (who doesn’t indicate deadlines), you will hardly change.
And if you don’t want a teacher, then you will have to take the responsibility yourself. Oh yes, you will have to accept responsibility and commit to change. Only commitment has helped me achieve the most amazing things. Few realize this. Since it’s extremely important, I have devoted a separate article to this topic. Read it here: commit and celebrate your life.
Q and A
What exactly does it mean to reinvent yourself?
Reinventing yourself entails changing aspects of yourself that you dislike or that no longer serve you. It might entail changing your career, correcting unwanted habits or behaviors, or learning new skills. If you feel the need to reinvent yourself, it might be for one of two reasons:
– You know you’re on the wrong road, in the wrong job, or in the wrong relationship. This indicates that you have been ascending the incorrect ladder.
– You know you’re not moving quickly enough. You have a goal, yet it seems to be impossible.
The simple conclusion is that if you want to reinvent yourself, you need a shift. And I’d be delighted to assist you.
How long does it take to reinvent yourself?
It takes an average of 66 days to reinvent oneself. In an interesting 2009 study by health psychology expert Phillippa Lally, 96 participants picked an eating, drinking, or exercise habit to modify for the next 12 weeks (such as drinking a bottle of water with lunch or jogging 15 minutes before supper).
Every day, these participants reported whether or not they completed the activity and how automatic it seemed. According to the findings, it takes an average of 66 days for a behavior to become automatic.
This doesn’t imply that comprehensive reinvention will occur in 66 days. It might take months or even years to radically change your circumstances/wealth/traits.
Next, let’s look at the background of why you need to reinvent yourself.
Possible reasons why you need to reinvent yourself
There are a lot of different factors that might be contributing to your desire for self-reinvention. In the end, it’s an indication that you’re looking to make some kind of change in some aspect of your life.
The following are some of the probable reasons why you should begin the process of reinventing yourself at this point in your life.
What if you have already changed yourself?
Reader, you can be angry; you can sue me, but I will tell you the truth: you can’t discover yourself once and for all. Athletes, bodybuilders, and intellectuals know this.
Oh heck, even if you build a house, it will rot and fall if you don’t take care of it. An analogous situation is with your personality! You have to constantly watch yourself from the side.
You have to constantly watch so that the old personality doesn’t return.
How to tell whether you need to reinvent yourself.
a) You feel that you are trapped in a rut.
Everyone has had this experience at some point in their life. When you’re stuck, it seems as if your life has come to a standstill in some manner. This sensation of languishing may be the result of having a job that is monotonous or a general lack of creativity.
b) It looks like your life is not meaningful.
You could want to reinvent yourself because you’re looking for a deeper sense of meaning and purpose in your hobbies and the way you spend your time because you feel like something is missing in your life. This realization of the need for self-improvement often occurs when we become aware of the amount of time that we have frittered away on activities that do not provide us with pleasure or significance.
Books on reinventing your mindset and your life
1. Reinvent Yourself, by James Altucher
James Altucher is a successful author who managed to become famous through his hard work. I suggest you take a look at his work and strategies.
This is the book I wish I had had at the beginning of my journey. If this book had appeared in my hands twenty years ago, I would have done soooooo much more!
“Reinvent Yourself” is a template for how to best adapt to a world in which the only constant is change, so that you may find happiness, success, wealth, meaningful work, and whatever else you desire in life.
2. Think Like a Monk: Train Your Mind for Peace and Purpose Every Day, By Jay Shetty
Jay Shetty, a social media phenomenon and the creator of the podcast On Purpose, condenses the ageless knowledge he gained as a monk into actionable steps that anybody can take on a daily basis in order to live a life that is less fraught with anxiety and more purposeful.
In this illuminating and enlightening book, Shetty draws on his experience spent as a monk to demonstrate to us how we can remove the obstacles that stand between our potential and our power.
“Think Like a Monk” reveals how to overcome negative thoughts and habits and access the calm and purpose that lies within all of us by combining ancient wisdom and the author’s own rich experiences in the ashram.
3. Can’t Hurt Me, by David Goggins
For David Goggins, childhood was a nightmare—poverty, prejudice, and physical abuse colored his days and haunted his nights. But through self-discipline, mental toughness, and hard work, Goggins transformed himself from a depressed, overweight young man with no future into a U.S. Armed Forces icon and one of the world’s top endurance athletes. The only man in history to complete elite training as a Navy SEAL, Army Ranger, and Air Force Tactical Air Controller, he went on to set records in numerous endurance events, inspiring Outside magazine to name him “The Fittest (Real) Man in America.”
In “Can’t Hurt Me,” he shares his astonishing life story and reveals that most of us tap into only 40% of our capabilities. Goggins calls this The 40% Rule, and his story illuminates a path that anyone can follow to push past pain, demolish fear, and reach their full potential.
4. The 4-Hour Workweek, by Tim Ferriss
“The 4-Hour Workweek: Escape 9 to 5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich” is a best-selling book written by Tim Ferriss that provides a roadmap for success as well as reinvention. Ferriss explains in it how one might leave their current job working from 9 to 5 in order to make an awesome life while working fewer hours. He describes how he was able to go from a position that paid him $40,000 per year for working 40 hours per week to one that paid him $40,000 per month for working only four hours per week. He teaches the newly wealthy his strategies for remaking your professional life and living a lavish lifestyle, and he does so by sharing his own insights and advice.
Want some more? Read An honest review of the book “The 4-Hour Workweek” and 5 must-read books like “The 4 Hour Work Week” by Timothy Ferriss.
5. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen R. Covey
This book, which has been hailed as one of the most motivational and life-changing works of literature ever penned, has been keeping readers enthralled for the past twenty-five years. It has changed the lives of presidents and CEOs, educators, and parents, and the lessons that are contained inside it can be applied to your own work habits and daily life as well.
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