What are the deepest values, and how to conduct a life revision?

The deepest values are the most important human values that are wounded deep in our species. I’m talking about things in the subconscious mind that are not easy to understand.

The deepest values are not values that ​​people choose when listening to “intuition.” Because intuition can be blind, lacking direction. Without it, the subconscious is boneless, lacking solidarity. You may think you have intuition, but you can’t see when you are right. Therefore, I propose paying attention to the values ​​that don’t change due to age and political views.

There are different kinds of values such as social, personal, universal, moral, spiritual, cultural, etc. 

Some argue that the deepest values are those with the most unquestionable values. But how can a human measure it? Maybe someone has a thermometer of values?

After all, there are many values. I will share a list of values.  

Values List 

You see, there are many values in the list. Some of the mentioned values are followed by children, others by teenagers. Indeed, it would be difficult for a child to understand which values are the most important because children are told that the most important value is related to their personal desires. After all, you’ve heard the phrase, “Do what you like; it’s the most important!”

Try to talk about values with a Russian and an American. Their mindsets are different. 

Or, discuss values with a church clerk! 

As you can see, there are many different opinions.

And there are those who, when speaking about the deepest values, mean the universal values of the universe, but conversations about it may remind us of games. For example, I have heard “righteous” advertise authenticity by shouting, “Authenticity is the most important value.” I disagree with this superficial thought. The world’s most famous serial killers were authentic as well, but that doesn’t add to their value, does it? That’s why I don’t respect authentic killers. 

I also disagree that real values are associated with favorite works. For example, there were times when I liked to play computer games. Such as Return to Castle Wolfenstein or Enemy Territory. And it seemed important to me. Ah, how stupid I was; your favorite pastime gives you no value after all. So the answer lies elsewhere. In other words, the deepest values are not those you believe in but those guided by sages who have already lived quite a long life, so they can tell you what is real.

Sure, it’s not nice to write down your personal thoughts and start believing in some older man, but that would be a pretty smart choice, at least when you’re young and inexperienced as a poussin. What I was until about 26 years of age.

Because older people can see more than we. Not all, but wise people among children are not easy to meet, right?  

Plus, one should not write off the various studies and information gathered by scientific people.

Oh yes, if we use different research, we will see interesting things encoded in us—in every animal, organism. This is clearly visible in children’s activities; after all, children like to explore this WORLD. Therefore, I dare to say that exploring the world is one of the most important values. I’m talking about honest exploration, with no bad intentions (which we receive by growing up and collecting the information we got from advertisers, brands who want to slip a few more sneakers, drinks, etc.). This means that we should be more interested in what surrounds us: The world.

That’s not all. If we step aside from the basic needs of food, shelter, water, and vital desire for sex, we would have the following:

1. Family and friends.

Cherish, support, and encourage my closest connections. (Immediate family, close friends, partner/children if they exist). Connections with others increase your personal worth and the value of society and humanity.

Speaking about family and friends, respect should not be forgotten. You also need to have a shared vision of yourself and your loved ones. If you are not helping to form a shared vision, you are less useful in your surroundings. The same applies to the people that surround you. Imagine if your other half doesn’t plan for the future with you and doesn’t talk about it. Do you think the value of such a person would be high? After all, it’s always more pleasant to know that a loved one is thinking about a future with you? That they plan to be with you? Or maybe I’m wrong, and it doesn’t matter?

2. Continuous improvement.

Improvement in any ways possible–morally, physically, intellectually, emotionally. (Reading books, documentaries, etc.)

It’s also important to constantly improve communication. This is one of the most important things. 

Learn to hear the participants in a conversation. It’s more important than the ability to argue or defend your point of view against an opponent. Oh yes, the ability to listen is one of the most important values ​​because it provides knowledge. When you listen, you learn more!

3. Social work.

Do challenging, interesting, and rewarding social work that is documented and will have an optimal positive effect on people. For example, your value will increase if you help out at a nursing home. Perhaps few will know that you are working in a nursing home, but your value will increase in your eyes. You will simply feel better, more important. You will know you are needed.

4. Experience beauty and greatness. 

Most likely through the arts, music, views. It gives you intelligence. You feel energized and can share your knowledge with others. 

5. Sport, body care.

It seems unrelatable with deepest values, but you will increase your worth by showing respect for your body to others.

6. Sharing knowledge about deepest values (true life values).

When you share it through activities you enjoy, e.g., blogging increases value. Even when you share information with a small group of people, you are already doing a lot! Because sharing knowledge of your deepest values ​​is better than encouraging drug use, smoking, and so on.

7. Your personal, social goals and their implementation.

When you know your goals and have a plan to help your country or locality, then your value increases. It has to do with the vision you share with others. 

Summarizing the above ideas, it could be stated that the values ​​refer to human Dignity & Empathy & Compassion & Justice & Reciprocity. 

But that’s only part of the truth that is hard to catch by its tail and even harder to hold on to for long periods.

Perform a revision of deepest values more often

I won’t hide it; I’m not perfect. 

Once I noticed that I was reaching for shitty values … 

I only noticed this after:

1. My relationship has fallen apart. 
2. 99% of employees left my company. 
3. A good friend of mine said to me, “Alex, what is happening with you? Why are you so cocky?” 

These events forced me to revise my values. 

But I’m happy with what happened! I’m especially glad that I learned to do a revision of my values periodically.  

How to check if you strive for the shitty or deepest values?

As you’ve already convinced yourself, life is a tricky thing. That’s why we get lost sometimes. It’s as if a ship at sea starts throwing us, and the storm has directed us towards bad values. That is why I propose constantly looking at your life from the side. I suggest asking yourself the following questions once a month: 

• Where do I spend most of my energy?
• Am I positive or negative most of the time? 
• Am I jealous?
• Am I guided by values ​​that only I myself respect? 
• What do I spend most of my money on?
• What do I visually consume on a day-to-day basis?
• What do I mostly think about every day?
• How many people do I hate, and how many do I love? 
• What goals do I set for myself?

The more honestly I answer these questions, the more benefits I get. Don’t you believe it? Try them! 

It’s up to you whether you are stuck in deep shit or deepest values.

– Alex Monaco