“My wife and I will have eight children,” the interlocutor once told me.
When I asked why eight instead of five, he said, “Maradona Diego’s parents had five daughters and three sons. Only one of the children achieved real success. That’s why I think one of our children will definitely return the investment!”
After hearing such arguments, I replied, “Following your formula, 16 children are needed. There may be a greater chance of getting your investment back, isn’t it?”
Get me right; I don’t think there is any need to wait for the kids to give something back. I believe that children must be given everything, not expecting a return, but I will confess: It’s good when those people you once helped thank! Plus, it’s amazing when people love you back and support you! Oh yes, it’s not wrong to climb the ladder of success by lifting others and…
“You’re FOOL, Alex! People are pigs! Even though I helped my cousin, he spat in my face!!!” one of the readers will say. I have an answer! I’ll tell you why some people act like garbage!
Why are people not grateful for your good deeds and how to behave so that they appreciate you!
It happens that friends, acquaintances, co-workers write off your help. It happens that people who abuse you try to suck you out even more, but with my fur, I made sure that the more you help people, the more there will be those who give more than they took away. At this point, mention should be made of the “formula of generosity.” I’ll explain how it works straight away.
Suppose you help three people a month. Three people are not enough, so it’s possible that none of them will thank you. However, if you help hundreds of people a month, ten of them will definitely thank you, AND ONE OF THEM WILL REALLY REALLY RETURN YOUR INVESTMENT WITH AN EXCESS. So if a small number of thankful people surrounds you, it means that very few people have received your help.
“Alex, you’re wrong! I have helped many people,” a reader who helped only 300 people will tell.
Three hundred people is a veeeeery little number.
You should help people en masse!
This is similar to investing in startups. Did you know that 75% of venture-backed startups fail? Under 50% of businesses make it to their fifth year. 33% of startups make it to the 10-year mark. Only 40% of startups actually turn a profit.
But with people, the situation is different.
People are not numbers, so it’s hard to predict, but you can’t even imagine how your life would change if you helped thousands of strangers! I know what I’m saying—I checked it with my own fur!
Once upon a time, I decided to share some free tips online. I wrote, wrote, and wrote. I have written over 100 articles. One of the readers was fascinated by the articles and got plenty of motivation. Realizing what to do, he went to another country, changed his life, and made a lot of money. Then he wrote me a letter of gratitude. After telling me about his trip, he offered to become a business partner.
In other words, I raised my partner. By providing free online content!
So there are people who have grown up and decided to repay me and help me!
And you, do you want to find business partners?
Oh yes, if you want to be successful, you have to hammer the following phrase into your head: “We rise by lifting others.”
Or maybe I’m the only one who thinks so?
Let’s check, go to the Internet. Google it—you’ll find tons of motivating quotes that say it’s really worth lifting others up!
I will share three quotes about helping others!
Quote no. 1: “You become strong by lifting others up, not pulling them down.” ― Matshona Dhliwayo
Quote no. 2: “The most beautiful people are those who bring out the beauty in others.” ― Matshona Dhliwayo
Quote no. 3: “Using your fire to ignite someone else’s, Will not dim your light… It will illuminate the room & you will shine, T O G E T H E R.” ― unknown author
Quote no. 4: We rise by lifting others – Robert Ingersoll
How you can rise by lifting others
I’m not going to lie to you, reader, so I’ll tell you: If you want to help people, do it wisely! Otherwise, you’ll get a kick in your butt!
In other words, there are different kinds of generosity. Imagine you want to give your car to a selfish neighbor. Do you think he will thank you? I doubt he’ll say thank you. I wouldn’t be surprised if he said, “Hey, why didn’t you refuel?” That is why I suggest helping with other things than money. My suggestions:
1. Share knowledge
One of the easiest ways to help others is to simply share your knowledge. You don’t have to be in front of a classroom to teach. Every day there is an opportunity to educate someone about your area of expertise. The key is to keep educating yourself so you can stay ahead of the curve.
Do you know who Gary Vaynerchuk is? He inspires millions of people. Go to his Instagram; you will find millions of messages of thanks!
2. Finding out what’s valuable to them
The number one rule of helping people should be to find out what’s actually valuable to someone. You may spend time and effort helping someone with something they didn’t even want help with. Make an effort to ask them where they need help, and keep that in mind when you see an opportunity.
3. Sharing your resources (how to become an investor, co-owner of a startup without the initial money)
Think about the resources you’ve invested in and be mindful of whether they can help someone else. Maybe a developer on your team has some extra time, and one of your contacts needed some help on a quick job. Or, perhaps you have Cardinals season tickets, and there’s a game that you won’t be able to attend. Keep those under—or unused resources in the back of your mind and try to connect them to people who can use them.
You can offer your knowledge for a new startup. Get stocks. You don’t need money to GET STOCKS. You can offer to become a partner who will share knowledge and invest your time. Do you understand what I’m about?
4. Giving them transparent feedback
Transparent feedback can be tough because some people don’t take constructive criticism well. There is a difference between telling someone that they suck and giving them good examples of how they can improve. Some people won’t take it well but, in the long run, you will help the people that you want to work with and enhance the efficiency and success of your company as well.
5. Being a brand advocate
When I sold my business, the business’s new owner offered me to be an advisor. I agreed. It gives me a lot of benefits, new acquaintances and so on.
6. Volunteering your time
Time is valuable, and most people understand that. When you take time out of your day to help a friend, they remember it. I try to do a guest webinar every couple of weeks for contacts so they know I’m willing to take time out of my day to share my experience with the community. Even if it’s not something as public as a webinar or podcast, set aside some time to help a contact; it could be as simple as assisting them in moving to a new home.
7. Recognizing them
There are a variety of ways to give someone recognition. You can include them in an article that you’ve written or mention them in a speech or presentation. An easy way to recognize someone is to nominate them for an award. There are countless awards out there that could really help out your network. It will mean a lot to the nominee that you thought of them and wanted to recognize them. On a smaller scale, you can have internal recognition within your company. It’s an easy way to make an employee feel good about the solid work they’ve done for your company.
Helping others isn’t always easy. It can sometimes derail your schedule and cost you time, money, and other resources. It can even be interpreted the wrong way. However, keep these tips in mind for some easy ways to show your connections that they truly matter to you.
- Generous people who help others reach far greater potential than they could have on their own.
- The givers are remembered fondly and are often publicly (and privately) thanked for their contribution.
- There are different kinds of generosity. Those who know them benefit the most and achieve the highest positions.
- We rise by lifting others!
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